That's exactly what a basic aerobatics course will teach you, Eric.
Many long years ago, I learned to fly soon after the FAA dropped the requirement that private pilot applicants must have spin training. But I flew with instructors who were from "the old school", and my introduction to spins took place at 4000' over the Knik Arm near Elmendorf AFB, Anchorage, Alaska, in January 1973. That first experience at the edge of the envelope scared the bejeebers out of me, but when the instructor calmly stopped the spin and the little 150 started flying again, with everything intact and both of us still very much alive, I realized how much more there was to learn about flying.
So I got out of the Air Force, and at some point in my budding aviation career, I had arrived at a sort of pinnacle of single engine capabilities--I had earned my Commercial and Instrument and CFI and CFII, I was doing single engine charters, and I thought I was pretty hot. We still had to demonstrate spins to the FAA Inspectors back then, to be CFIs, and I did, well.
But my buddy, my partner in a Skylane RG, suggested that we should learn aerobatics. So I went to an aerobatics school in Boulder, and over the course of the next 10 hours or so, I learned basic aerobatics--but most importantly, I learned where the edges of the envelope are, and I no longer feared them. In the process, I got to fly with Betty Stewart, then the World Aerobatics Champion--and what she could do with a Super Decathlon would amaze you! My poor efforts at rolls and loops and the like made the airplane look like some sort of broken-down tub, but when she took the controls, it totally changed personalities. Afterwards, I had the privilege of hand-propping her Pitts so that she could fly on to her next gig!
I don't claim to be a super pilot, but there is no doubt that I am a much better pilot than I would have been, had I not had a little training in that Decathlon.
So after you get your airplane built and after you have become a private pilot, spend the extra time learning a little about aerobatics. It will open your eyes to what your airplane can safely do, and you'll be able to safely do it. That will make you a much better pilot, under any circumstances.
Cary